Adultery is a sin I have committed. It is nothing I am proud off. I used it as an excuse instead of talking with my wife, Johanna. Adultery doesn't solve anything. I just got a question from a friend if I wanted my wife to find out, and the honest answer is yes. I wanted to get a real excuse for talking with her. I know, this was a very bad way of getting her attention. I have completely ruined my wife's trust in me and I totally understand that she is very disappointed with me. The damage done is very grave and probably can never be fully repaired, no matter what I say or do for the rest of my life. Even if we do go separate ways I hope we can stay friends for ever and that she won't hate me (now or in the future).
Why did I commit it then? Well, when it happened I was rather blasé about our marriage. I just didn't care anymore what happened. I didn't care enough to take a discussion or fight about something. Some people say you should not, fight but I think a verbal fight now and then clears the air in a positive way. You say what you really mean instead of trying to be "polite" and cover in it "nice" words.
Would I like it to be undone? Yes. I should have talked with Johanna first. BUT done is done, nothing can change what I have done and I just have to work from here to find what is right for me and the people around me.
Johanna, I miss you!
Hi, I went there to and I wish I never had and for the same reason, we both got married very young 20 years old, no collage could bearly get jobs for over minumum wage, then 6months afterwe were married I got pregnant, we fought alot, I started to expect things from him with out realizing you should never expect things from anyone, no more than they are willing to give because when you put your trust in others we are bound to be dissapointed ( we can only trust in god) I now know this well to get to the point I am now 26 years old and 2 years ago I was like you tired of fighting felt like I did'nt care anymore and thought the affair would some how make things better (bring us closer) words cannot evne come close to express how much I regret this, two years later we are still suffering the ramifications of my mistake it costed him his job, this other man would call his work he was alot older than me he was 38 I was a very nieve 24 year old, I did not relize how damaging.........since the affair my husband lost his job a decent paying one he left because he knew because of the finacial struggle and his anger because of what was the cause he would not treat me right so now I am forced to do it all on my own, I took my babbies daddy away I have hurt her!! I have cried for to long but just recently I have started to go to church and I am determined to work hard so he will see that I am a good women and I will help him get back everything I helped him lose, I can't blame the other man although sometimes I tend to do that, Ultimately I know that I can only blame myself and someday I can touch his heart and he will open up to me again I know I hurt him so bad......... He would cry at my bedside , he is not a bad man but he was married to a stupid women and if there is anyone out there who has ever even considered it. REMEMBER THE 10 COMMANDMENTS it is on the same list that says thou shall not kill.........THOSE lwas were put there for a reason!! God knew!! they are only there to protecting you from hurting yourself!! the consequeses are severe and anyone who doesn't believe this come and talk to me GOD loves his children and any father who loves his children does punish, jo
I am very sad about the fact that my husband has cheated me twice. As the matter of fact it has been a nite's stand and both abroad with foreign women. This has really tored me apart and as I try to collect myself for the future it pains me more.
I have three little kids depending on me and all are from our happy marriage that has now turned into a nightmare.
Please help your advice will better my life.
Thanks.
I never thought he would cheat on me but he did. I found out because he used my computer to e-mail his friend. After all was said and done; where do you move on to emotionally concerning your partner. I feel nothing and I wish he would disappear. I have been with him for thirteen years and I do not know if I can stay another day. Why did he take everything that was us and destroyed it?
Yes I'm here because my husband of 22 years had an affair, it has totally devasted me and our grown children, I never thought this could happen to me,
and not sure I can ever trust anyone that much ever again,he was the first person in my life I thought I could really trust, and it was such a let down to know that really I can't even trust him... the worst of all of it is he has not given me a reason WHY, he'd rather forget about it.
Truely hurt
My husband had & maybe is still having an affair. We have been married 29 plus years & I am so very hurt by this as I have always been very deeply in love with him. He said it was never a physical affair just an emotional one & really all one sided (on his part as he sayid she told him she woas not interested in him other than as a friend)but I am having a hard time trusting in that. I want to try & get past this & I pray I can. It has brought on so much stress that I actually had a heart attack from the stress & had to have surgery on my heart to repair the physical damage. I am not sure what to do about the emotional damage.
I thought I would post an update about my last blog.
Well its been 6 months since finding out the devistating news that my wife was having an affair with her supervisor. Its been a long road to recovery, but am glad to share that the divorce is final, and she has moved to Houston with him, to start a new life. Its been a tough realization of the fact, but now know its for the best. Tiffany I want to thank you for letting me know what kind of person you really are now, and not 5 or 10 years down the road and finding out you have been with various other partners under our vows of marraige. Steve, you better watch her with every step, because your in for a real surprise when she does it again. Its not a guess, its an eventual reality.
Everyone, if you find out your spouse is having an affair, chances are it wasn't the first and won't be the last time it occurs. Good luck
well i have the same answer every one thinks stupid people fall for maaried men/women , but i was also there just divorces my ex husband then this guy who is twice my age told me i am beautiful and clever welli was very dumb for falling for him he was so amazing he made love like a prince charming guess what he is happily married for 21 years and i moved on and maaried the best guy alive !!!! so good things can come to a end !!!!